I Thought I Didn’t Get Angry… Turns Out I Was Just Really Good at Stuffing It Down [episode 94]
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I used to think I wasn’t an angry person. I didn’t yell, I didn’t slam doors, and I certainly didn’t express anger outwardly.
But over time, I realized my anger WAS there! I was just really good at hiding it.
In today’s episode, I’m diving into why I thought I didn’t get angry, but actually, I was just really good at shoving it down. If you grew up in rural spaces where stoicism and toughness are celebrated, you’ve probably been taught to think that anger isn’t safe.
Anger isn’t something to fear or push away, though – it’s actually a powerful, protective emotion that deserves our attention. Anger is a signal (like the check engine light in your car). It rises up when a boundary’s been crossed, or a need goes unmet.
While rage or violence can be harmful, anger itself is NOT. When you understand healthy aggression and pair this with awareness, it can become a tool for clarity, truth, and good movement!
Ultimately, anger isn’t the enemy – it’s often just the messenger. Let’s stop shoving anger down and start listening to it with curiosity and care!
In this episode, I Thought I Didn’t Get Angry… Turns Out I Was Just Really Good at Stuffing It Down, I cover:
- How emotion is our first language + why anger is often the first one we learn to silence
- The double standard in how anger is handled differently for men vs. women
- What anger actually is
- Real-life examples of what healthy aggression can look like
- Tuning into where anger shows up in your body + getting curious about its message
- Reflective journal prompts to help you explore and reclaim your anger
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Related Episodes:
- Episode 25: The ‘Thick Skin’ Myth and How We View Emotions in Rural America
- Episode 62: The Hard Truth About Emotions: You Gotta Feel Them All
- Episode 78: Emotions Aren’t the Problem – Avoiding Them Is
More about the Good Movement Draws Good Movement podcast:
In stockmanship (the art and science of handling cattle in a safe, effective, low-stress manner), we have this phrase . . . good movement draws good movement.
It’s this thing that happens when we ask a small group of cattle, maybe a cow, or a pair to move out in a certain direction and their movement draws the whole herd into moving in the same direction.
Good movement happens when we approach the cattle with a positive attitude, read and really listen to what they’re telling us, and communicate accordingly.
We don’t approach the aware, flighty cattle the same as we do the tame, docile cattle. We adjust ourselves, our energy, and approach, and communicate with each differently.
These adjustments help us effectively draw good movement from each, which then draws good movement from the herd. But it starts with us.
The same is true for humans. Good movement starts with us.
Welcome to Good Movement Draws Good Movement, the podcast where farmers, ranchers, and rural folks can grow relationally through awareness, understanding, and effective communication.
Hey, it’s me – T. I’m your host, and I, along with my guests, will be covering topics related to drawing good movement – things like self and social awareness, brain science, positive psychology, extending grace, and so much more.
We’ll share tools that can help you understand why you are the way you are, why others are the way they are, and how you can use that to step out of self-told lies with grace and compassion to draw good movement in conversations, relationships, and life in rural America.
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