Shut the Gate: Boundaries That Grow Capacity [episode 108]
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Boundaries aren’t about shutting people out; they’re about letting ourselves breathe.
This topic has been coming up again and again, on the ranch, in friendships, and in everyday life. Recently, I had a friend ask how to really know what boundaries to set. I knew it was something we needed to revisit here on the podcast!
In today’s episode, I’m talking about boundaries that grow capacity. Many of us grew up believing we were responsible for everyone else’s emotions. We learned to stay quiet, stay polite, and keep everyone happy.
Unfortunately, those patterns often show up later as burnout, resentment, or the quiet ache of always being available for everyone but ourselves. In ranching and rural life, especially, we’re taught to push through and override everything, no matter WHAT.
Boundaries don’t have to mean permanence or walls that never come down; they’re more like fences with gates. Boundaries that grow capacity can be uncomfortable at first, but over time, that discomfort turns into peace and regrowth.
Ultimately, boundaries are an act of love for ourselves, our families, and for the work we’re called to do. They protect our energy, grow our capacity, and help us return to what truly matters!
In this episode, Shut the Gate: Boundaries That Grow Capacity, I cover:
- How to recognize when your body is signaling the need for a boundary
- Why so many of us were conditioned to feel responsible for other people’s emotions
- How guilt, burnout & resentment often show up when boundaries are missing
- The difference between compassion and carrying someone else’s emotional load
- Why boundaries are more like fences with gates than walls or distance
- How boundaries help grow your capacity + protect your energy
- The connection between boundaries & healing (for you and your loved ones)
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- Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting
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Related Episodes:
- Episode 36: Boundaries Are Kind
- Episode 93: Family Dynamics and Emotional Healing with Paige Dulaney
- Episode 102: Stop Carrying Everyone Else’s Healing: Do the Work for You First
More about the Good Movement Draws Good Movement podcast:
In stockmanship (the art and science of handling cattle in a safe, effective, low-stress manner), we have this phrase . . . good movement draws good movement.
It’s this thing that happens when we ask a small group of cattle, maybe a cow, or a pair to move out in a certain direction and their movement draws the whole herd into moving in the same direction.
Good movement happens when we approach the cattle with a positive attitude, read and really listen to what they’re telling us, and communicate accordingly.
We don’t approach the aware, flighty cattle the same as we do the tame, docile cattle. We adjust ourselves, our energy, and approach, and communicate with each differently.
These adjustments help us effectively draw good movement from each, which then draws good movement from the herd. But it starts with us.
The same is true for humans. Good movement starts with us.
Welcome to Good Movement Draws Good Movement, the podcast where farmers, ranchers, and rural folks can grow relationally through awareness, understanding, and effective communication.
Hey, it’s me – T. I’m your host, and I, along with my guests, will be covering topics related to drawing good movement – things like self and social awareness, brain science, positive psychology, extending grace, and so much more.
We’ll share tools that can help you understand why you are the way you are, why others are the way they are, and how you can use that to step out of self-told lies with grace and compassion to draw good movement in conversations, relationships, and life in rural America.
Tune in every Tuesday and make sure to hit subscribe so you never miss an episode! Let’s go draw good movement!
