Let’s Normalize Asking Questions [episode 30]
![header graphic for Let’s Normalize Asking Questions [episode 30]](https://terryndrieling.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/05/Terryn-Ep-30-header-1.png)
Listen to Let’s Normalize Asking Questions on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Google Podcasts
Tom and I are here today to talk about a situation we just experienced with our cows – you could say it was rather…frustrating. We shared in a recent episode that we’re in the middle of calving season, and that always adds more pressure to what’s going on anyway. We also have some newer cows who don’t fully trust us yet, so as we were trying to lead them through an open gate (where they really needed to go), they basically froze, and weren’t willing to budge. Of course, this was super stressful for both of us; the variety of emotions we were feeling were very real, and it all just kind of felt like a slap in the face!
We’ve been practicing low stress stockmanship for almost two decades; it’s rare that we have to reach out to others for support, but in this case, we knew that was the best option for us to move forward. In today’s episode, Tom and I discuss more about why we should normalize asking questions, even though it feels difficult to do so in our society. Fortunately, Tom and I have wonderful mentors who are very well versed in low stress stockmanship. While their advice was helpful, their validation and support letting us know we weren’t alone with our ‘challenging’ cows was even MORE beneficial for us in that moment.
You could say Tom and I were pretty much at our wits’ end with getting these cows where they needed to go, but after they had the necessary time and space, they were ready to move. Honestly, this was a really great learning opportunity for both of us, and an important reminder that trying to force relationships (whether it’s with animals or people), isn’t going to go well. Remember – asking questions, getting support where you need it, and choosing compassion will never steer you wrong!
In this episode, Let’s Normalize Asking Questions, we cover:
- Our recent situation of struggling to get a few select heavy cows to enter a gate where they needed to go + the variety of emotions that came with this ordeal
- Why we decided to reach out to our mentors for support + the feedback we received
- Why it feels so hard to ask for questions in our society + why we really need to normalize doing so
Resources & Links:
- Join the waitlist for the Good Movement Collective
- Join the waitlist for the Start with You Mastermind
- Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
- Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting
Connect with Terryn:
- Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
- Check out my website
- Send me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.com
Related Episodes:
- Episode 24: How to Get Others to Do the Personal Growth Work with Tom
- Episode 11: Tom’s Take on the Enneagram + Good Movement Trainings
More about the Good Movement Draws Good Movement podcast:
In stockmanship (the art and science of handling cattle in a safe, effective, low-stress manner), we have this phrase . . . good movement draws good movement.
It’s this thing that happens when we ask a small group of cattle, maybe a cow, or a pair to move out in a certain direction and their movement draws the whole herd into moving in the same direction.
Good movement happens when we approach the cattle with a positive attitude, read and really listen to what they’re telling us, and communicate accordingly.
We don’t approach the aware, flighty cattle the same as we do the tame, docile cattle. We adjust ourselves, our energy, and approach, and communicate with each differently.
These adjustments help us effectively draw good movement from each, which then draws good movement from the herd. But it starts with us.
The same is true for humans. Good movement starts with us.
Welcome to Good Movement Draws Good Movement, the podcast where farmers, ranchers, and rural folks can grow relationally through awareness, understanding, and effective communication.
Hey, it’s me – T. I’m your host, and I, along with my guests, will be covering topics related to drawing good movement – things like self and social awareness, brain science, positive psychology, extending grace, and so much more.
We’ll share tools that can help you understand why you are the way you are, why others are the way they are, and how you can use that to step out of self-told lies with grace and compassion to draw good movement in conversations, relationships, and life in rural America.
Tune in every Tuesday and make sure to hit subscribe so you never miss an episode! Let’s go draw good movement!
