Apologies Aren’t Weak – They’re Repair [episode 84]
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I recently apologized to my middle daughter for a moment that happened nearly seven years ago. You might be thinking (like my daughter), “Why in the world are you apologizing for that now?!”
It’s something that I felt the need to circle back to, especially since we’ve been talking about the power of showing our kids that we’re human.
In today’s episode, I’m talking about why apologies aren’t weak – they’re repair.
In this particular situation, my daughter experienced a string of accidents. Unfortunately, I reacted out of fear and frustration when she was hurt and scared. Looking back, I realize she didn’t need a lesson at that moment – she needed comfort and connection.
Apologizing now gave me a chance to rewrite that moment and send a new message: her feelings are NEVER too much and never something to simply shove down.
Apologies aren’t weak – taking the time to apologize shows that we care. It’s never too late to say “I’m sorry,” and it’s never too late for our kids to see (and hear) this from us, too!
In this episode, Apologies Aren’t Weak – They’re Repair, I cover:
- Why I chose to apologize to my daughter recently for something that happened years ago
- How apologies help to rewrite the story & repair damage
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Related Episodes:
- Episode 83: Let Them (See You Feel): Raising Resilient Kids by Being Real in Front of Them
- Episode 44: How Attachment and Attunement Have Transformed My Parenting
- Episode 42: What I Would Do Differently in Parenting if I Had It to Do Over Again
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In stockmanship (the art and science of handling cattle in a safe, effective, low-stress manner), we have this phrase . . . good movement draws good movement.
It’s this thing that happens when we ask a small group of cattle, maybe a cow, or a pair to move out in a certain direction and their movement draws the whole herd into moving in the same direction.
Good movement happens when we approach the cattle with a positive attitude, read and really listen to what they’re telling us, and communicate accordingly.
We don’t approach the aware, flighty cattle the same as we do the tame, docile cattle. We adjust ourselves, our energy, and approach, and communicate with each differently.
These adjustments help us effectively draw good movement from each, which then draws good movement from the herd. But it starts with us.
The same is true for humans. Good movement starts with us.
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