Cows, Kids, and Communication Gaps with Tom [episode 97]
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Guess who’s back on the podcast today? Tom!
Life has been full for us lately – the county fair, calving, golf tournaments, and all the everyday ranching things, so it felt extra special to sit down together and share a story fresh from life with our kids.
In today’s episode, we’re diving into all things cows, kids, and communication gaps. Earlier this week, Tom set out to move cattle with the kids while I stayed in for a workday. What was supposed to be a simple “fun” project quickly turned into a bit of a rodeo!
Ultimately, the kids thought it was an absolute blast. But for Tom, well, let’s just say his perspective was a little different.
The heart of this episode is communication and perspective. What seems clear to one person may feel COMPLETELY different to another! When we don’t pause to check for understanding, things can spiral quickly.
We also realized just how differently Tom and the kids experienced the same moment. While it was more stressful for Tom, it was pure fun for the kids. Both were true!
In the end, this story was a reminder of the learning that comes from moments like these. It’s vital that we slow down, make sure we’re on the same page, and recognize that communication isn’t just about what you say – it’s about how it’s heard!
In this episode, Cows, Kids, and Communication Gaps with Tom, we cover:
- A recent story of our kids “helping” with the cows (and how it really went)
- How Tom’s inner critic made the situation feel worse than it actually was
- Why clear communication matters so much (especially with family)
- The very different perspectives between Tom and the kids
- How Tom’s emotional waves have shifted through inner work and regulation
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Related Episodes:
- Episode 70: How We’ve Navigated Expectations in Ranch Life and Marriage with Tom
- Episode 64: Burnout on the Ranch: How We’re Learning to Recover Faster with Tom
- Episode 54: From Grazing to Relationships: Why Feel Matters More Than Formulas
- Episode 3: How Self-Awareness Has Helped Our Marriage
More about the Good Movement Draws Good Movement podcast:
In stockmanship (the art and science of handling cattle in a safe, effective, low-stress manner), we have this phrase . . . good movement draws good movement.
It’s this thing that happens when we ask a small group of cattle, maybe a cow, or a pair to move out in a certain direction and their movement draws the whole herd into moving in the same direction.
Good movement happens when we approach the cattle with a positive attitude, read and really listen to what they’re telling us, and communicate accordingly.
We don’t approach the aware, flighty cattle the same as we do the tame, docile cattle. We adjust ourselves, our energy, and approach, and communicate with each differently.
These adjustments help us effectively draw good movement from each, which then draws good movement from the herd. But it starts with us.
The same is true for humans. Good movement starts with us.
Welcome to Good Movement Draws Good Movement, the podcast where farmers, ranchers, and rural folks can grow relationally through awareness, understanding, and effective communication.
Hey, it’s me – T. I’m your host, and I, along with my guests, will be covering topics related to drawing good movement – things like self and social awareness, brain science, positive psychology, extending grace, and so much more.
We’ll share tools that can help you understand why you are the way you are, why others are the way they are, and how you can use that to step out of self-told lies with grace and compassion to draw good movement in conversations, relationships, and life in rural America.
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