How We’ve Navigated Expectations in Ranch Life and Marriage with Tom [episode 70]
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Tom is back with me on the podcast, and we’re discussing a topic that can be challenging for many people: expectations. More than likely, you’re going to have certain expectations, but not everyone around you may know what those are. Tom and I experienced this exact situation last fall when we were weaning calves. Even though it was frustrating in the moment, it led to a great (and very much needed) conversation about expectations!
In today’s episode, we’re talking about how we’ve navigated expectations in ranch life and marriage. Tom and I have learned that unspoken expectations are resentments waiting to happen. If you’re going to have an expectation about XYZ, you’ve got to speak it – not everyone is going to have the same expectation or understand where you’re coming from!
High expectations aren’t a bad thing, but if you’re consistently NOT having your expectations met, it’s time to look within yourself, too. When you’re in a healthy place mentally and emotionally, you’re going to feel safer and more confident in what you’re doing. You’ll be able to effectively communicate with those around you and, ultimately, help them feel seen and heard. All of this is incredibly valuable and flows so well together!
We hope this episode gives you a more REAL insight into how we’ve navigated expectations in ranch life and marriage. We’ve both done the inner work on our own (as well as together); it takes time to get there, but it’s absolutely worth it.
Remember – speaking expectations are so, SO important. People aren’t mind readers, and they can’t meet expectations they don’t know exist!
In this episode, How We’ve Navigated Expectations in Ranch Life and Marriage with Tom, we cover:
- Tom’s experience with having high, unspoken expectations of others + how that’s changed
- What to consider if your expectations are consistently NOT being met
- The correlation between feeling safe & effectively communicating your expectations
- Making sure that YOU’RE in the right place mentally in order to help others
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Related Episodes:
- Episode 64: Burnout on the Ranch: How We’re Learning to Recover Faster
- Episode 54: From Grazing to Relationships: Why Feel Matters More Than Formulas
- Episode 28: How We Prepare for Busy Seasons
- Episode 3: How Self-Awareness Has Helped Our Marriage
More about the Good Movement Draws Good Movement podcast:
In stockmanship (the art and science of handling cattle in a safe, effective, low-stress manner), we have this phrase . . . good movement draws good movement.
It’s this thing that happens when we ask a small group of cattle, maybe a cow, or a pair to move out in a certain direction and their movement draws the whole herd into moving in the same direction.
Good movement happens when we approach the cattle with a positive attitude, read and really listen to what they’re telling us, and communicate accordingly.
We don’t approach the aware, flighty cattle the same as we do the tame, docile cattle. We adjust ourselves, our energy, and approach, and communicate with each differently.
These adjustments help us effectively draw good movement from each, which then draws good movement from the herd. But it starts with us.
The same is true for humans. Good movement starts with us.
Welcome to Good Movement Draws Good Movement, the podcast where farmers, ranchers, and rural folks can grow relationally through awareness, understanding, and effective communication.
Hey, it’s me – T. I’m your host, and I, along with my guests, will be covering topics related to drawing good movement – things like self and social awareness, brain science, positive psychology, extending grace, and so much more.
We’ll share tools that can help you understand why you are the way you are, why others are the way they are, and how you can use that to step out of self-told lies with grace and compassion to draw good movement in conversations, relationships, and life in rural America.
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