Ignoring It Isn’t the Answer—for Yourself or Others [episode 99]
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Last week, Tom and I spoke at the Goodmanson Sandhills Laboratory Open House. One of my favorite parts of that conversation (and something I’ve talked about often here) is the power of validation!
I’m not talking about agreement, fixing, or dismissing, but simply seeing another being and acknowledging what they’re experiencing.
In today’s episode, I’m talking about validation, and why ignoring it isn’t the answer – for yourself OR others. I was reminded of this lesson again in our own barnyard. One of our cows has been especially nervous and reactive.
At first, I tried ignoring her, hoping it would help the situation. But it actually made things worse. When I shifted my approach and started acknowledging her nervousness, I could almost feel her settle.
It’s the same with people. Too often, we either ignore what someone’s going through or feel like we need to fully understand before we can validate them.
Ignoring our own emotions doesn’t make them disappear either – it just pushes them down. Whether we’re validating a cow, a loved one, or ourselves, we create space for things to shift and move forward.
If this resonates with you, I’m here for you. You can schedule a free consult call for 1:1 Good Movement Guidance, because you don’t have to go at this alone!
In this episode, Ignoring It Isn’t the Answer—for Yourself or Others, I cover:
- Why validation doesn’t mean agreement (and why that’s a common misconception)
- My fresh story regarding how I validated an anxious cow
- The 2 main approaches we often take with people
- Why you don’t have to fully understand what someone’s going through to validate them
- The power of self-validation + what it can look like in your daily life
Resources & Links:
- Download your free guide to Handling Hard Conversations!
- Schedule a consult call for 1:1 Good Movement Guidance
- Join the waitlist for the Good Movement Collective
- Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
- Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting
Connect with Terryn:
- Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
- Check out my website
- Send me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.com
Related Episodes:
- Episode 50: Validation vs. Agreement: Understanding the Difference and Why It Matters
- Episode 51: Practical Tips for Validation: How to Validate and Seek It in Relationships
- Episode 52. Keeping Calm in Conflict: Validation Strategies for Heated Moments
More about the Good Movement Draws Good Movement podcast:
In stockmanship (the art and science of handling cattle in a safe, effective, low-stress manner), we have this phrase . . . good movement draws good movement.
It’s this thing that happens when we ask a small group of cattle, maybe a cow, or a pair to move out in a certain direction and their movement draws the whole herd into moving in the same direction.
Good movement happens when we approach the cattle with a positive attitude, read and really listen to what they’re telling us, and communicate accordingly.
We don’t approach the aware, flighty cattle the same as we do the tame, docile cattle. We adjust ourselves, our energy, and approach, and communicate with each differently.
These adjustments help us effectively draw good movement from each, which then draws good movement from the herd. But it starts with us.
The same is true for humans. Good movement starts with us.
Welcome to Good Movement Draws Good Movement, the podcast where farmers, ranchers, and rural folks can grow relationally through awareness, understanding, and effective communication.
Hey, it’s me – T. I’m your host, and I, along with my guests, will be covering topics related to drawing good movement – things like self and social awareness, brain science, positive psychology, extending grace, and so much more.
We’ll share tools that can help you understand why you are the way you are, why others are the way they are, and how you can use that to step out of self-told lies with grace and compassion to draw good movement in conversations, relationships, and life in rural America.
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