Let Them (See You Feel): Raising Resilient Kids by Being Real in Front of Them [episode 83]
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So many parents feel the pressure to be strong for their kids. They feel like they need to hold it all together and shield them from the hard moments.
But what if true strength actually looks like being SEEN?
In today’s episode, I’m talking about raising resilient kids by being real in FRONT of them. When we model how to walk through the tough seasons and come out on the other side, we give our kids the tools they need to do the same!
Kids don’t learn emotional resilience by watching someone who never cracks or wavers. If we hide our feelings, we unknowingly teach them that emotions are unsafe or wrong. Our children pick up on our energy (just like cattle do when we work them in stockmanship).
Instead of masking the hard stuff, let them see you feel, and see you fully HUMAN. Let them see you cry, name your emotions, apologize, take breaks, and, most importantly, HEAL.
Raising resilient kids isn’t about emotionally dumping on them or making them responsible for our struggles. It’s about showing them that strength includes softness, imperfection, and repair.
They don’t need a perfect parent; they need a present one who shows them what it looks like to fall, get back up, and keep going. That’s the kind of resilience they’ll carry with them for life!
In this episode, Let Them (See You Feel): Raising Resilient Kids by Being Real in Front of Them, I cover:
- What happens when you’re always strong and hide your emotions from your kids
- What you can and should let your kids see and hear from you
- How modeling emotional regulation shapes your kids and positively impacts future generations
Resources & Links:
- The Whole-Brain Child
- Raising Securely Attached Kids
- Download your free guide to Handling Hard Conversations!
- Join the Good Movement Collective
- Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
- Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting
Connect with Terryn:
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- Check out my website
- Send me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.com
Related Episodes:
- Episode 44: How Attachment and Attunement Have Transformed My Parenting
- Episode 42: What I Would Do Differently in Parenting if I Had It to Do Over Again
- Episode 32: Spoiler Alert – There’s Nothing Wrong with Talking About How We Really Are
More about the Good Movement Draws Good Movement podcast:
In stockmanship (the art and science of handling cattle in a safe, effective, low-stress manner), we have this phrase . . . good movement draws good movement.
It’s this thing that happens when we ask a small group of cattle, maybe a cow, or a pair to move out in a certain direction and their movement draws the whole herd into moving in the same direction.
Good movement happens when we approach the cattle with a positive attitude, read and really listen to what they’re telling us, and communicate accordingly.
We don’t approach the aware, flighty cattle the same as we do the tame, docile cattle. We adjust ourselves, our energy, and approach, and communicate with each differently.
These adjustments help us effectively draw good movement from each, which then draws good movement from the herd. But it starts with us.
The same is true for humans. Good movement starts with us.
Welcome to Good Movement Draws Good Movement, the podcast where farmers, ranchers, and rural folks can grow relationally through awareness, understanding, and effective communication.
Hey, it’s me – T. I’m your host, and I, along with my guests, will be covering topics related to drawing good movement – things like self and social awareness, brain science, positive psychology, extending grace, and so much more.
We’ll share tools that can help you understand why you are the way you are, why others are the way they are, and how you can use that to step out of self-told lies with grace and compassion to draw good movement in conversations, relationships, and life in rural America.
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