From Fear-Based Compliance to Trust-Based Respect [episode 103]
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We often hear phrases like, “Kids these days just don’t respect their elders.” I even saw a meme recently saying we should bring that back.
That made me pause and wonder – what do we really mean when we talk about respect? Is it obedience? Silence? Fear? Or could it be something deeper?
In today’s episode, I’m talking about going from fear-based compliance to trust-based respect.
For so long, respect has been tied to compliance. Think about the old saying, “Children should be seen and not heard.” It sounds like respect, but really? It’s fear “dressed up” as obedience.
True respect isn’t taught through commands or punishments; it’s cultivated! It grows over time through consistency, integrity, and trust. People (and animals) respect us because of how they experience us, NOT because we demand it.
When we shift from fear-based control to trust-based respect, everything changes. Respect isn’t about demanding quiet – it’s about making space for someone’s whole self to show up.
Maybe we don’t need to bring back the kind of respect we once taught. Maybe it’s time to redefine it, and create respect that grows roots, deepens relationships, and truly LASTS!
In this episode, From Fear-Based Compliance to Trust-Based Respect, I cover:
- Why true respect is something we cultivate, not something we can force or teach
- What our horse revealed about the difference between fear-based compliance & trust-based respect
- Key contrasts between fear-driven obedience & trust-built respect
- Reflection questions + practical steps to help you shift from fear to trust in your own life
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Related Episodes:
- Episode 12: Choose Curiosity Over Criticism
- Episode 20: An Unpopular Opinion – I Donât Find the Humor Worth the Harm
- Episode 101: One Intentional Breath: My First Step Toward Emotional Healing
More about the Good Movement Draws Good Movement podcast:
In stockmanship (the art and science of handling cattle in a safe, effective, low-stress manner), we have this phrase . . . good movement draws good movement.
Itâs this thing that happens when we ask a small group of cattle, maybe a cow, or a pair to move out in a certain direction and their movement draws the whole herd into moving in the same direction.
Good movement happens when we approach the cattle with a positive attitude, read and really listen to what theyâre telling us, and communicate accordingly.
We donât approach the aware, flighty cattle the same as we do the tame, docile cattle. We adjust ourselves, our energy, and approach, and communicate with each differently.
These adjustments help us effectively draw good movement from each, which then draws good movement from the herd. But it starts with us.
The same is true for humans. Good movement starts with us.
Welcome to Good Movement Draws Good Movement, the podcast where farmers, ranchers, and rural folks can grow relationally through awareness, understanding, and effective communication.
Hey, itâs me – T. Iâm your host, and I, along with my guests, will be covering topics related to drawing good movement – things like self and social awareness, brain science, positive psychology, extending grace, and so much more.
Weâll share tools that can help you understand why you are the way you are, why others are the way they are, and how you can use that to step out of self-told lies with grace and compassion to draw good movement in conversations, relationships, and life in rural America.
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