Not All ‘Sorrys’ Are Equal – What Apologies Are and What They’re Not [episode 87]
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We were always told to say “sorry,” but were we ever taught what it really means to apologize?
For so many of us, true apologies weren’t modeled, and we weren’t shown how to receive them either. No wonder all of this feels strange as we become adults with relationships and families!
In today’s episode, I’m talking about what apologies are and what they’re not. Apologies are an act of repair – they don’t undo what happened or wipe it all clean, but they CAN mend the fabric of a relationship.
A real apology isn’t about theatrics – It’s about accountability, humility, and connection. Apologies usually bring some discomfort, too, because real growth IS a little uncomfortable.
Apologies aren’t shortcuts to healing. They’re not a pressure to move on faster than your heart is ready, and they shouldn’t be used as a sneaky way to shift blame or avoid consequences.
Receiving apologies can feel foreign, too. You can receive an apology while still honoring your pain and holding boundaries. You don’t have to pretend it didn’t hurt just to make someone else feel better!
I hope this episode encourages you to reflect on your relationship with apologies (both on the giving AND receiving end). If you need more support in this area, this is the kind of work we do inside the Good Movement Collective and in 1:1 Good Movement Guidance.
Remember – not all “sorrys” are equal, but there’s ALWAYS an opportunity for repair and for growth!
In this episode, Not All ‘Sorrys’ Are Equal – What Apologies Are and What They’re Not, I cover:
- What true apologies are + how they help to mend connection
- What apologies are NOT
- Why so many of us struggle to receive apologies + how to practice receiving them with grace
- Naming and grieving the hurt when an apology never comes
- Practical tips for offering a genuine, heartfelt apology
Resources & Links:
- Download your free guide to Handling Hard Conversations!
- Schedule a free consult and see if 1:1 Good Movement Guidance is right for you
- Join the Good Movement Collective
- Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
- Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting
Connect with Terryn:
- Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
- Check out my website
- Send me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.com
Related Episodes:
- Episode 84: Apologies Aren’t Weak – They’re Repair
- Episode 49: Calming the Sort Alley: How to Communicate in the Heat of the Moment
- Episode 15: Repairing After a Fight
More about the Good Movement Draws Good Movement podcast:
In stockmanship (the art and science of handling cattle in a safe, effective, low-stress manner), we have this phrase . . . good movement draws good movement.
It’s this thing that happens when we ask a small group of cattle, maybe a cow, or a pair to move out in a certain direction and their movement draws the whole herd into moving in the same direction.
Good movement happens when we approach the cattle with a positive attitude, read and really listen to what they’re telling us, and communicate accordingly.
We don’t approach the aware, flighty cattle the same as we do the tame, docile cattle. We adjust ourselves, our energy, and approach, and communicate with each differently.
These adjustments help us effectively draw good movement from each, which then draws good movement from the herd. But it starts with us.
The same is true for humans. Good movement starts with us.
Welcome to Good Movement Draws Good Movement, the podcast where farmers, ranchers, and rural folks can grow relationally through awareness, understanding, and effective communication.
Hey, it’s me – T. I’m your host, and I, along with my guests, will be covering topics related to drawing good movement – things like self and social awareness, brain science, positive psychology, extending grace, and so much more.
We’ll share tools that can help you understand why you are the way you are, why others are the way they are, and how you can use that to step out of self-told lies with grace and compassion to draw good movement in conversations, relationships, and life in rural America.
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