What Grace Is (And What It’s Not) [episode 86]
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A few weeks ago (on the anniversary of my dad’s passing), I wanted to stay home, turn inward, and just be by myself. But Tom let me know our friends were short-handed for branding, and I felt the nudge to go. That day turned into an unexpected connection and meaningful conversation, and honestly, I’m so happy I went!
One question that stuck with me (asked by one of the ladies there, which I truly appreciated) was: What is grace, really?
In today’s episode, I’m talking about what grace is (and what it’s not). We hear “give yourself grace” or “extend grace to others” alllll the time. But grace isn’t pretending everything’s fine or letting people treat us poorly. It’s not stuffing your feelings to keep the peace.
Real grace tells the TRUTH, holds boundaries, and stays rooted in kindness. It’s curiosity without judgment and staying present when it would be easier to shut down. And yes, grace includes you, too!
If this resonates, I want to encourage you to journal on this. Think about where you’ve mistaken grace for something else, and what would real grace look like instead?
I’d love for you to check out our new private podcast, The Draw, if you want to go even deeper and learn ways that will help you start to heal in YOUR own way!
In this episode, What Grace Is (And What It’s Not), I cover:
- Why grace is NOT people-pleasing, fake peace, or avoiding hard truths
- Why grace is truth-telling, boundary-holding, and rooted in kindness
- A personal story of extending real grace to Tom during a frustrating moment
- Why grace makes space for connection, healing, and growth instead of shame
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Related Episodes:
- Episode 84: Apologies Aren’t Weak – They’re Repair
- Episode 61: The Story You Don’t Know: Extending Grace Without Accepting Behavior
- Episode 50: Validation vs. Agreement: Understanding the Difference and Why It Matters
More about the Good Movement Draws Good Movement podcast:
In stockmanship (the art and science of handling cattle in a safe, effective, low-stress manner), we have this phrase . . . good movement draws good movement.
It’s this thing that happens when we ask a small group of cattle, maybe a cow, or a pair to move out in a certain direction and their movement draws the whole herd into moving in the same direction.
Good movement happens when we approach the cattle with a positive attitude, read and really listen to what they’re telling us, and communicate accordingly.
We don’t approach the aware, flighty cattle the same as we do the tame, docile cattle. We adjust ourselves, our energy, and approach, and communicate with each differently.
These adjustments help us effectively draw good movement from each, which then draws good movement from the herd. But it starts with us.
The same is true for humans. Good movement starts with us.
Welcome to Good Movement Draws Good Movement, the podcast where farmers, ranchers, and rural folks can grow relationally through awareness, understanding, and effective communication.
Hey, it’s me – T. I’m your host, and I, along with my guests, will be covering topics related to drawing good movement – things like self and social awareness, brain science, positive psychology, extending grace, and so much more.
We’ll share tools that can help you understand why you are the way you are, why others are the way they are, and how you can use that to step out of self-told lies with grace and compassion to draw good movement in conversations, relationships, and life in rural America.
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