Comfortably Numb: When Calm Becomes Disconnection [episode 105]
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In ranching, in agriculture, and in this rural way of life, we get really good at staying calm under pressure. We don’t have time to panic – we just handle whatever’s thrown our way.
That kind of composure is something to be proud of… until it’s not.
In today’s episode, I’m talking about what happens when calm becomes disconnection. What we often call calm isn’t really calm at all. On the outside, it looks steady and strong, but inside? It can feel tight, numb, or completely disconnected – it’s what I like to call “comfortably numb.”
This is what so many of us in agriculture are taught – be tough, hold it together, and keep going (no matter what). But when calm becomes disconnection, we lose touch with ourselves AND the people around us.
True calm comes from a regulated nervous system. It’s the kind of peace that allows you to think, feel, connect, and actually be present.
When we learn the language of our bodies (and actually listen to our emotions instead of shoving them down), we start to tell the difference between peace and protection!
It’s not about never feeling overwhelmed – it’s about learning to come back. The awareness piece is huge here, and can be the first step toward finding your way back to real peace!
In this episode, Comfortably Numb: When Calm Becomes Disconnection, I cover:
- What true calm really means + how it differs from disconnection
- Why we often mistake being calm for being disconnected
- How to recognize the physical & emotional signs of true calm vs. shutdown
- • • Practical ways to come back from a freeze or shutdown + reconnect with yourself and others
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Related Episodes:
- Episode 25: The ‘Thick Skin’ Myth and How We View Emotions in Rural America
- Episode 94: I Thought I Didn’t Get Angry… Turns Out I Was Just Really Good at Stuffing It Down
- Episode 101: One Intentional Breath: My First Step Toward Emotional Healing
More about the Good Movement Draws Good Movement podcast:
In stockmanship (the art and science of handling cattle in a safe, effective, low-stress manner), we have this phrase . . . good movement draws good movement.
It’s this thing that happens when we ask a small group of cattle, maybe a cow, or a pair to move out in a certain direction and their movement draws the whole herd into moving in the same direction.
Good movement happens when we approach the cattle with a positive attitude, read and really listen to what they’re telling us, and communicate accordingly.
We don’t approach the aware, flighty cattle the same as we do the tame, docile cattle. We adjust ourselves, our energy, and approach, and communicate with each differently.
These adjustments help us effectively draw good movement from each, which then draws good movement from the herd. But it starts with us.
The same is true for humans. Good movement starts with us.
Welcome to Good Movement Draws Good Movement, the podcast where farmers, ranchers, and rural folks can grow relationally through awareness, understanding, and effective communication.
Hey, it’s me – T. I’m your host, and I, along with my guests, will be covering topics related to drawing good movement – things like self and social awareness, brain science, positive psychology, extending grace, and so much more.
We’ll share tools that can help you understand why you are the way you are, why others are the way they are, and how you can use that to step out of self-told lies with grace and compassion to draw good movement in conversations, relationships, and life in rural America.
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