Calming the Sort Alley: How to Communicate in the Heat of the Moment [episode 49]
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Today’s episode is coming to you from a cute little Airbnb at a women’s ag event in Utah! I originally planned to record a different topic before coming here, but…plans changed, and so did my mind after speaking here.
I was asked to speak on the topic of building strong relationships on cattle operations through communication, which you may know by now is right up my alley! I love doing workshop-style presentations and answering questions from other people. One of the common themes that kept coming up was how to communicate in faster-paced, intense environments (like you would encounter in the sort alley), so I wanted to give you my best suggestions on how to do so.
In today’s episode, I talk about calming the sort alley, and how to communicate in the heat of the moment. When you are angry or frustrated, your response is going to be that way too, so it’s not wise to communicate with someone else until you have your emotions in check. It’s important that you actually go to the person who is struggling in the sort pen (or insert where this is in your life), and find a way to help them so you can move forward, together.
Validation is something else that we must practice when communicating with others. Validating other people and their feelings is crucial, because everyone deserves to be seen and heard. I know doing this type of thing may be viewed as ‘soft’, but guess what? Being ‘soft’ does NOT make you weak. If Charmin can be both soft and strong, so can we!
Something I’m asked often is how to get the people in your life to pursue personal growth and good movement. Well…if you want to get them on board with personal growth, improving communication, and drawing good movement, it starts with YOU.
When you’re doing the ‘work’ in your own life, people are going to notice. It will take time (yep, it’s a slow burn), but don’t get discouraged, because all of it will be worth it!
In this episode, Calming the Sort Alley: How to Communicate in the Heat of the Moment, we cover:
- Choosing not to communicate in the heat of the moment unless you have your emotions regulated and in check
- Ask honest questions so you can gain knowledge and find a way forward to help the other person(s) involved + yourself
- Validating others and their feelings and why ‘soft’ doesn’t mean weak
- How to get other people on board with improving communication and drawing good movement and why it’s a ‘slow burn’
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Related Episode:
- Episode 24 | How to Get Others to Do the Personal Growth Work with Tom
- Episode 46 | Cultivating Resilience + Fighting Well: Dannel Wissler on Mental Health and Family Dynamics in Rural America
More about the Good Movement Draws Good Movement podcast:
In stockmanship (the art and science of handling cattle in a safe, effective, low-stress manner), we have this phrase . . . good movement draws good movement.
It’s this thing that happens when we ask a small group of cattle, maybe a cow, or a pair to move out in a certain direction and their movement draws the whole herd into moving in the same direction.
Good movement happens when we approach the cattle with a positive attitude, read and really listen to what they’re telling us, and communicate accordingly.
We don’t approach the aware, flighty cattle the same as we do the tame, docile cattle. We adjust ourselves, our energy, and approach, and communicate with each differently.
These adjustments help us effectively draw good movement from each, which then draws good movement from the herd. But it starts with us.
The same is true for humans. Good movement starts with us.
Welcome to Good Movement Draws Good Movement, the podcast where farmers, ranchers, and rural folks can grow relationally through awareness, understanding, and effective communication.
Hey, it’s me – T. I’m your host, and I, along with my guests, will be covering topics related to drawing good movement – things like self and social awareness, brain science, positive psychology, extending grace, and so much more.
We’ll share tools that can help you understand why you are the way you are, why others are the way they are, and how you can use that to step out of self-told lies with grace and compassion to draw good movement in conversations, relationships, and life in rural America.
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