The Beliefs That Keep Us from Asking for Help [episode 116]
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So many of us in rural America are the first to show up when someone else needs help, and the last to raise our hands for help.
In today’s episode, I’m talking about the beliefs that keep us from asking for help. Asking for and receiving help is something I’ve been working on in my own life for quite some time now. It’s something that many of us struggle with (especially in agriculture).
I even polled my Instagram community about how they feel asking for help, and the results spoke VOLUMES. The vast majority struggle to ask for help, even though nearly all of them are very willing to extend help to others!
So many of us grew up in families and communities where asking for help just wasn’t a thing. We learned to keep going, figure it out, and NEVER inconvenience anyone.
The truth, though? Not asking for help keeps us isolated, and honestly, that’s not benefiting anyone.
As I continue working on this in my own life, I’ve realized that asking for and receiving help doesn’t mean I’m weak or “less than.” I’m letting connection happen, and that’s a beautiful thing!
I want to encourage you to think about YOUR beliefs that may be keeping you from asking for help. You might be surprised at how good it feels when someone helps you (and how much they love it, too)!
In this episode, The Beliefs That Keep Us from Asking for Help, I cover:
- Why asking for & receiving help has been such a challenge for me + many others in rural spaces
- A recent example from my own life of almost turning down help + what it revealed
- Results from my recent Instagram poll about how likely we are to ask for help
- 5 core beliefs that hold many of us back from asking for help
- How generational conditioning & learned survival patterns shape the ways we avoid or decline help
- The difference between healthy independence & isolating ourselves
- A powerful reframe I’m now leaning into when asking for help
- 3 reflection prompts for you to explore
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Related Episodes:
- Episode 25: The ‘Thick Skin’ Myth and How We View Emotions in Rural America
- Episode 79: Self-Reliance vs. Connection: What Actually Helps Us Heal
- Episode 95: “Do I Really Need This Right Now?” — On Waiting for a Crisis to Seek Help
More about the Good Movement Draws Good Movement podcast:
In stockmanship (the art and science of handling cattle in a safe, effective, low-stress manner), we have this phrase . . . good movement draws good movement.
It’s this thing that happens when we ask a small group of cattle, maybe a cow, or a pair to move out in a certain direction, and their movement draws the whole herd into moving in the same direction.
Good movement happens when we approach the cattle with a positive attitude, read and really listen to what they’re telling us, and communicate accordingly.
We don’t approach the aware, flighty cattle the same as we do the tame, docile cattle. We adjust ourselves, our energy, and approach, and communicate with each differently.
These adjustments help us effectively draw good movement from each, which then draws good movement from the herd. But it starts with us.
The same is true for humans. Good movement starts with us.
Welcome to Good Movement Draws Good Movement, the podcast where farmers, ranchers, and rural folks can grow relationally through awareness, understanding, and effective communication.
Hey, it’s me – T. I’m your host, and I, along with my guests, will be covering topics related to drawing good movement – things like self and social awareness, brain science, positive psychology, extending grace, and so much more.
We’ll share tools that can help you understand why you are the way you are, why others are the way they are, and how you can use that to step out of self-told lies with grace and compassion to draw good movement in conversations, relationships, and life in rural America.
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