It Doesn’t Have to Be Major to Matter [episode 104]
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Sometimes we downplay our pain because it doesn’t look like a single, defining moment. We compare our experiences to others, dismissing our own hurts as “not that bad.”
But trauma isn’t measured by the size of the event – it’s about what happens INSIDE of us.
In today’s episode, I’m sharing why it doesn’t have to be major to matter. You may not have a “single moment” that feels hard, but rather a buildup of little things (i.e., the absence of safety, love, or compassion).
On the ranch, we sometimes have calves that get small grass seeds stuck in their eyes. From the outside, it looks like pinkeye or something major. Thankfully, it’s not, but if we don’t take care of it, that tiny seed can cause BIG problems down the road.
Our emotional wounds work the same way, and can fester if we never acknowledge or tend to them!
Our capacity to handle pain is deeply individual. What feels huge to me may not feel the same to you, and vice versa.
Ultimately, ignoring the “small stuff” will only lead us to ignore what our body and emotions are trying to tell us.
Pain doesn’t have to be major to matter – choosing to name it isn’t wallowing, but will allow you to find true HEALING!
It Doesn’t Have to Be Major to Matter, I cover:
- Why pain doesn’t have to come from a major traumatic event to matter
- How the little hurts & unmet needs can build up over time + affect us later
- What shapes our individual capacity to handle pain
- What happens when we keep dismissing the small stuff
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Related Episodes:
- Episode 12: Choose Curiosity Over Criticism
- Episode 90: “I’m Just Complaining” & Other Things We Say to Downplay What We Feel
- Episode 95: “Do I Really Need This Right Now?” — On Waiting for a Crisis to Seek Help
More about the Good Movement Draws Good Movement podcast:
In stockmanship (the art and science of handling cattle in a safe, effective, low-stress manner), we have this phrase . . . good movement draws good movement.
It’s this thing that happens when we ask a small group of cattle, maybe a cow, or a pair to move out in a certain direction and their movement draws the whole herd into moving in the same direction.
Good movement happens when we approach the cattle with a positive attitude, read and really listen to what they’re telling us, and communicate accordingly.
We don’t approach the aware, flighty cattle the same as we do the tame, docile cattle. We adjust ourselves, our energy, and approach, and communicate with each differently.
These adjustments help us effectively draw good movement from each, which then draws good movement from the herd. But it starts with us.
The same is true for humans. Good movement starts with us.
Welcome to Good Movement Draws Good Movement, the podcast where farmers, ranchers, and rural folks can grow relationally through awareness, understanding, and effective communication.
Hey, it’s me – T. I’m your host, and I, along with my guests, will be covering topics related to drawing good movement – things like self and social awareness, brain science, positive psychology, extending grace, and so much more.
We’ll share tools that can help you understand why you are the way you are, why others are the way they are, and how you can use that to step out of self-told lies with grace and compassion to draw good movement in conversations, relationships, and life in rural America.
Tune in every Tuesday and make sure to hit subscribe so you never miss an episode! Let’s go draw good movement!
