The Growing Pains of Boundaries, Help, and Working Together with Tom [episode 115]
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There’s nothing I love more than having our favorite repeat guest back on the show – my husband, Tom!
After a bit of a hiatus, he’s back to help me answer some of your questions from DMs, real-life conversations, and a few I added myself because, well, they’re good ones to dive into.
In today’s episode, we’re talking about the growing pains of boundaries, help, and working together. While we complement each other in day-to-day work (and our relationship overall), we definitely still butt heads.
We’ve had arguments that feel funny now (like a certain Jack Russell terrier that almost ruined our relationship)! Working cattle has taught us about reading energy, adjusting expectations, and giving each other space when necessary.
Of course, there’s the BIG one about asking for help (and receiving it). We chat about the pride that gets tangled up in there, and how this is still a major issue in agriculture.
Maybe you have some growing pains with boundaries, asking for help, or something else in your life. Either way, you’re so not alone, and we hope this lighthearted Q&A helps you feel a little more seen!
In this episode, The Growing Pains of Boundaries, Help, and Working Together with Tom, we cover:
- How Tom and I complement each other in day-to-day ranch work + spots where we still butt heads
- The growing pains of boundaries in marriage
- Our argument from years ago that now feels funny
- The cattle-working lesson that shows up in our marriage
- Why both asking for help AND receiving help still feels challenging
- A meaningful moment of finally accepting help that made a big difference
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Related Episodes:
- Episode 3: How Self-Awareness Has Helped Our Marriage
- Episode 70: How We’ve Navigated Expectations in Ranch Life and Marriage with Tom
- Episode 97: Cows, Kids, and Communication Gaps with Tom
- Episode 100: It’s the 100th Episode!! A Ranch Q&A and Real Talk with Tom
More about the Good Movement Draws Good Movement podcast:
In stockmanship (the art and science of handling cattle in a safe, effective, low-stress manner), we have this phrase . . . good movement draws good movement.
It’s this thing that happens when we ask a small group of cattle, maybe a cow, or a pair to move out in a certain direction, and their movement draws the whole herd into moving in the same direction.
Good movement happens when we approach the cattle with a positive attitude, read and really listen to what they’re telling us, and communicate accordingly.
We don’t approach the aware, flighty cattle the same as we do the tame, docile cattle. We adjust ourselves, our energy, and approach, and communicate with each differently.
These adjustments help us effectively draw good movement from each, which then draws good movement from the herd. But it starts with us.
The same is true for humans. Good movement starts with us.
Welcome to Good Movement Draws Good Movement, the podcast where farmers, ranchers, and rural folks can grow relationally through awareness, understanding, and effective communication.
Hey, it’s me – T. I’m your host, and I, along with my guests, will be covering topics related to drawing good movement – things like self and social awareness, brain science, positive psychology, extending grace, and so much more.
We’ll share tools that can help you understand why you are the way you are, why others are the way they are, and how you can use that to step out of self-told lies with grace and compassion to draw good movement in conversations, relationships, and life in rural America.
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