Guilt and Shame… What’s the Difference? [episode 136]
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Something that so many people quietly carry (but often struggle to name) is the difference between guilt and shame.
While those two emotions are commonly used interchangeably, they are actually VERY different. Understanding that difference can completely shift the way we move through hard emotions, relationships, and healing!
In today’s episode, I’m diving into guilt and shame, and how they’re different. Guilt usually comes from something we’ve done wrong, whether intentionally or unintentionally. Shame, on the other hand, tends to attack who we are, rather than what we did.
Honestly, though, needing help is NOT a weakness – it’s part of being human. We shouldn’t need to handle everything alone (especially in rural communities and high-achieving environments). Healing, support, and connection were never meant to happen in isolation!
My hope is that this conversation reminds you that you are not bad, broken, or “weak” for being human.
If you’re struggling with guilt and shame and are ready to go deeper on your healing journey, I’d love to support you. You can schedule a free 30-minute call with me to talk about what 1:1 Good Movement Guidance could look like for you. Make sure to mention “castpod” when you book to receive 10% off!
In this episode, Guilt and Shame… What’s the Difference?, I cover:
- The difference between guilt and shame
- Why guilt can lead to accountability, repair, and growth
- How shame is often rooted in outside criticism, expectations & cultural messaging
- The role “should” and “shouldn’t” play in reinforcing shame
- Why needing help is not a weakness
- How shame thrives in secrecy + loses power when brought into the light
- Practical ways to move through both guilt and shame
- Why boundaries help protect your peace and emotional well-being
- Learning to recognize whether you’re carrying guilt for an action or shame about yourself
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- Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
- Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting
Connect with Terryn:
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- Send me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.com
Related Episodes:
- Episode 25: The ‘Thick Skin’ Myth and How We View Emotions in Rural America
- Episode 111: What if Anger Isn’t Bad — It’s Just Misunderstood?
- Episode 119: What Might Be Under the Perfectionism, Shame, and Self-Loathing with Amber Trejo
More about the Good Movement Draws Good Movement podcast:
In stockmanship (the art and science of handling cattle in a safe, effective, low-stress manner), we have this phrase . . . good movement draws good movement.
It’s this thing that happens when we ask a small group of cattle, maybe a cow or a pair, to move out in a certain direction, and their movement draws the whole herd into moving in the same direction.
Good movement happens when we approach the cattle with a positive attitude, read and really listen to what they’re telling us, and communicate accordingly.
We don’t approach the aware, flighty cattle the same as we do the tame, docile cattle. We adjust ourselves, our energy, and our approach, and we communicate with each other differently.
These adjustments help us effectively draw good movement from each, which then draws good movement from the herd. But it starts with us.
The same is true for humans. Good movement starts with us.
Welcome to Good Movement Draws Good Movement, the podcast where farmers, ranchers, and rural folks can grow relationally through awareness, understanding, and effective communication.
Hey, it’s me – T. I’m your host, and I, along with my guests, will be covering topics related to drawing good movement – things like self and social awareness, brain science, positive psychology, extending grace, and so much more.
We’ll share tools that can help you understand why you are the way you are, why others are the way they are, and how you can use that to step out of self-told lies with grace and compassion to draw good movement in conversations, relationships, and life in rural America.
Tune in every Tuesday, and make sure to hit subscribe so you never miss an episode! Let’s go draw good movement!
