We Don’t Know How to Hold Grief [episode 151]
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For most of my life, grief was something I wanted nothing to do with. I didn’t want to talk about it, sit with people experiencing it, or even acknowledge my own. I thought avoiding grief would somehow protect me from it.
But grief doesn’t disappear when we refuse to feel it. Eventually, it finds its way back to us.
In today’s episode, I’m talking about how we don’t know how to hold grief. Over the last three years, I’ve experienced loss and uncertainty in ways I never anticipated. After my dad died suddenly in 2023, I knew I couldn’t simply shove the grief down as I had before.
Shortly before his death, I heard something that has stayed with me ever since: we don’t know how to hold mystery, and we don’t know how to hold grief. So, I found support and began learning how to experience grief (rather than run from it).
Maybe learning to hold grief isn’t about making it disappear. Maybe it’s about welcoming what’s here, allowing ourselves to experience it, and trusting that we can hold more than we once believed we could.
We can learn to sit with grief, and allow it to deepen our compassion, love, and capacity for joy. THAT is part of being fully alive, too!
If you’re experiencing grief right now (or you know you’re avoiding it), you don’t have to hold it alone. My email and DMs are always open, and you’re welcome to schedule a free consult call if you need more support!
In this episode, We Don’t Know How to Hold Grief, I cover:
- Why so many of us feel uncomfortable with grief
- Why avoiding grief doesn’t make it disappear
- Learning to hold both grief & uncertainty
- How seeking support changed my relationship with loss
- How making room for sadness can deepen our capacity for joy
- Why bright-siding can diminish someone’s experience of grief
- Befriending grief instead of trying to numb or escape it
- The secret to being fully alive
Resources & Links:
- The Wild Edge of Sorrow by Francis Weller
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- Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
- Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting
Connect with Terryn:
- Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
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- Send me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.com
Related Episodes:
- Episode 7: Grief and What I Know So Far
- Episode 132: Disaster Trauma Recovery + Processing Grief with Victoria Mexcur
- Episode 134: How to Help Someone Who Is Grieving or Going Through a Lot
More about the Good Movement Draws Good Movement podcast:
In stockmanship (the art and science of handling cattle in a safe, effective, low-stress manner), we have this phrase . . . good movement draws good movement.
It’s this thing that happens when we ask a small group of cattle, maybe a cow or a pair, to move out in a certain direction, and their movement draws the whole herd into moving in the same direction.
Good movement happens when we approach the cattle with a positive attitude, read and really listen to what they’re telling us, and communicate accordingly.
We don’t approach the aware, flighty cattle the same as we do the tame, docile cattle. We adjust ourselves, our energy, and our approach, and we communicate with each other differently.
These adjustments help us effectively draw good movement from each, which then draws good movement from the herd. But it starts with us.
The same is true for humans. Good movement starts with us.
Welcome to Good Movement Draws Good Movement, the podcast where farmers, ranchers, and rural folks can grow relationally through awareness, understanding, and effective communication.
Hey, it’s me – T. I’m your host, and I, along with my guests, will be covering topics related to drawing good movement – things like self and social awareness, brain science, positive psychology, extending grace, and so much more.
We’ll share tools that can help you understand why you are the way you are, why others are the way they are, and how you can use that to step out of self-told lies with grace and compassion to draw good movement in conversations, relationships, and life in rural America.
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