Were You Taught Not to Cry? It Might Be Time to Unlearn That [episode 149]
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Have you ever found yourself apologizing for crying? Maybe you’ve said, “I don’t know why I’m crying,” or brushed your tears off as silly or embarrassing.
I’ve heard several versions of this recently, and it got me thinking about why so many of us feel the need to apologize for something that is such a natural, human response!
In today’s episode, I’m diving into why you were taught not to cry, and why it might be time to unlearn that. For many of us, the message that crying isn’t okay started early. Maybe you heard phrases like, “Dry it up,” or “I’ll give you something to cry about”. Maybe you grew up believing strength meant keeping your emotions hidden, or never letting your kids see you struggle.
But hiding our emotions doesn’t necessarily protect the people around us. It can actually reinforce the idea that tears are something to be ashamed of.
Our tears have a purpose, and they need somewhere to go. You don’t need to apologize for your tears, and you don’t need to judge them. Sometimes, allowing yourself to cry is simply part of allowing yourself to be fully HUMAN.
If you struggle with crying and/or repressing your emotions, I’d love to support you on your healing journey. Schedule a free 30-minute call with me, and let’s talk about 1:1 Good Movement Guidance. Don’t forget to mention “castpod” when you book to receive 10% off!
In this episode, Were You Taught Not to Cry? It Might Be Time to Unlearn That, I cover:
- Why so many of us apologize for crying
- Why hiding emotions doesn’t necessarily protect our children
- 3 types of tears + the purposes they serve
- The unique benefits of emotional tears
- What repressing emotions can really lead to
- Choosing to cry when YOU feel comfortable + also not holding them in forever
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- Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
- Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting
Connect with Terryn:
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Related Episodes:
- Episode 25: The ‘Thick Skin’ Myth and How We View Emotions in Rural America
- Episode 62: The Hard Truth About Emotions: You Gotta Feel Them All
- Episode 78: Emotions Aren’t the Problem – Avoiding Them Is
More about the Good Movement Draws Good Movement podcast:
In stockmanship (the art and science of handling cattle in a safe, effective, low-stress manner), we have this phrase . . . good movement draws good movement.
It’s this thing that happens when we ask a small group of cattle, maybe a cow or a pair, to move out in a certain direction, and their movement draws the whole herd into moving in the same direction.
Good movement happens when we approach the cattle with a positive attitude, read and really listen to what they’re telling us, and communicate accordingly.
We don’t approach the aware, flighty cattle the same as we do the tame, docile cattle. We adjust ourselves, our energy, and our approach, and we communicate with each other differently.
These adjustments help us effectively draw good movement from each, which then draws good movement from the herd. But it starts with us.
The same is true for humans. Good movement starts with us.
Welcome to Good Movement Draws Good Movement, the podcast where farmers, ranchers, and rural folks can grow relationally through awareness, understanding, and effective communication.
Hey, it’s me – T. I’m your host, and I, along with my guests, will be covering topics related to drawing good movement – things like self and social awareness, brain science, positive psychology, extending grace, and so much more.
We’ll share tools that can help you understand why you are the way you are, why others are the way they are, and how you can use that to step out of self-told lies with grace and compassion to draw good movement in conversations, relationships, and life in rural America.
Tune in every Tuesday, and make sure to hit subscribe so you never miss an episode! Let’s go draw good movement!
