"You Can't Hurt My Feelings, I Work with My Family" [episode 147]

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You’ve probably seen the memes like “You can’t hurt my feelings – I work with my family.” They’re often shared as a badge of honor, or a joke about life on the farm or ranch.

But what if they’re revealing something much deeper, and much more serious?

In today’s episode, I’m talking about the danger in “you can’t hurt my feelings – I work with my family.” This is often a sign that we’ve learned to disconnect from our own pain.

When we normalize harsh words and emotional wounds, we normalize unhealthy relationships. Over time, we convince ourselves that being hurt is just part of the job (or culture).

Numbness doesn’t mean we’re okay, though – it simply means we’ve stopped noticing the bleeding. The cost of that mindset reaches far beyond hurt feelings. It affects our families, communities, and even the future of agriculture.

Ultimately, real change (and good movement) doesn’t begin with everyone else – it begins with us.

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In this episode, The Danger In – “You Can’t Hurt My Feelings, I Work with My Family,” I cover:

Why harsh words shouldn’t be normalized as part of family culture
Why numbness is NOT the same as strength
The disproportionately high suicide rates among farmers & ranchers
How we can help reverse this harmful rhetoric

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Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

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Related Episodes:

Episode 20: An Unpopular Opinion – I Don’t Find the Humor Worth the Harm
Episode 25: The ‘Thick Skin’ Myth and How We View Emotions in Rural America
Episode 114: This Isn’t Normal: Calling Out the Quiet Crisis in Rural Mental Health

More about the Good Movement Draws Good Movement podcast:

In stockmanship (the art and science of handling cattle in a safe, effective, low-stress manner), we have this phrase . . . good movement draws good movement.

It’s this thing that happens when we ask a small group of cattle, maybe a cow or a pair, to move out in a certain direction, and their movement draws the whole herd into moving in the same direction.

Good movement happens when we approach the cattle with a positive attitude, read and really listen to what they’re telling us, and communicate accordingly.

We don’t approach the aware, flighty cattle the same as we do the tame, docile cattle. We adjust ourselves, our energy, and our approach, and we communicate with each other differently.

These adjustments help us effectively draw good movement from each, which then draws good movement from the herd. But it starts with us.

The same is true for humans. Good movement starts with us.

Welcome to Good Movement Draws Good Movement, the podcast where farmers, ranchers, and rural folks can grow relationally through awareness, understanding, and effective communication.

Hey, it’s me – T. I’m your host, and I, along with my guests, will be covering topics related to drawing good movement – things like self and social awareness, brain science, positive psychology, extending grace, and so much more.

We’ll share tools that can help you understand why you are the way you are, why others are the way they are, and how you can use that to step out of self-told lies with grace and compassion to draw good movement in conversations, relationships, and life in rural America.

Tune in every Tuesday, and make sure to hit subscribe so you never miss an episode! Let’s go draw good movement!