Attachment and Attunement – What Do Those Words Even Mean? [episode 38]

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Over the course of the past year and a half or so, I’ve been asked if I’ve ever considered becoming a therapist. While yes, I have considered it, it’s not something I want to pursue in this current season of life (or maybe ever, if I’m being totally honest). However, I LOVE gathering and learning information that will absolutely help other people, and I’ve recently been consuming Dr. Gabor Matè’s books (I’ve currently read four of his five books). His work is fascinating, and I’m pretty mind-blown by what I’ve learned! Dr. Matè talks a lot about addiction, chronic illness, suppressed emotions, ADD, and more. If I had to sum up his work though, it would be that humans need healthy, secure attachment and attunement, and humans are most lacking healthy, secure attachment and attunement. 

In today’s episode, I want to talk about attachment and attunement, and why we need BOTH of these to not only survive, but thrive. But..what do these words even mean?! Attachment is really the foundation upon which everything else in our brain is built, and attunement is our awareness and responsiveness to the needs of others. Our society is severely lacking in both attachment and attunement, but that doesn’t mean it has to stay that way – we can change that, especially as we become more aware of how to do so.

I’m really convinced that attachment and attunement are not just important, but really, the KEY to unlocking and better understanding so many things (I’m currently working on these in my own life, with my personal relationships). You better believe I’ve got a whole lot more to say about these topics, and I’ll plan to dig into them more in future episodes, so stay tuned for those! 

In this episode, Attachment and Attunement – What Do Those Words Even Mean?, we cover:

• The mind-blowing information I’ve learned from my recent consumption of Dr. Gabor Mate’s books
• What attachment and attunement mean + why we need both to survive 
• Gaining awareness with just how important attachment and attunement are + my commitment to improving my personal relationships

Resources & Links:

• When the Body Says No
• The Myth of Normal
• Scattered Minds
• In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts
• Join the waitlist for the Good Movement Collective
• Good Movement Trainings
• Good Movement music by: Aaron Espe
• Podcast produced by: Jill Carr Podcasting

Connect with Terryn:

• Follow on Instagram @terryn.drieling
• Check out my website
• Send me an email at terryn@terryndrieling.com

Related Episodes:

• Episode 27: What is the Purpose of Emotions
• Episode 25: The ‘Thick Skin’ Myth and How We View Emotions in Rural America

More about the Good Movement Draws Good Movement podcast:

In stockmanship (the art and science of handling cattle in a safe, effective, low-stress manner), we have this phrase . . . good movement draws good movement. 

It’s this thing that happens when we ask a small group of cattle, maybe a cow, or a pair to move out in a certain direction and their movement draws the whole herd into moving in the same direction.

Good movement happens when we approach the cattle with a positive attitude, read and really listen to what they’re telling us, and communicate accordingly. 

We don’t approach the aware, flighty cattle the same as we do the tame, docile cattle. We adjust ourselves, our energy, and approach, and communicate with each differently.

These adjustments help us effectively draw good movement from each, which then draws good movement from the herd. But it starts with us.

The same is true for humans. Good movement starts with us.

Welcome to Good Movement Draws Good Movement, the podcast where farmers, ranchers, and rural folks can grow relationally through awareness, understanding, and effective communication.

Hey, it’s me – T. I’m your host, and I, along with my guests, will be covering topics related to drawing good movement – things like self and social awareness, brain science, positive psychology, extending grace, and so much more. 

We’ll share tools that can help you understand why you are the way you are, why others are the way they are, and how you can use that to step out of self-told lies with grace and compassion to draw good movement in conversations, relationships, and life in rural America. 

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